Daily Dose of Positivity : Interaction vs Reciprocation

Every interaction you have with another human being is merely a mirrored reciprocation

"All you have to do if you want everything in life from everybody else is first pay attention; listen to them; show them respect; give them meaning, satisfaction, and fulfillment. Convey to them that they matter to you. And show you love them. But you have to go first. And what are you going to get back? Mirrored reciprocation."

The world is so damn simple. It’s not complicated at all! Every single person on this planet is looking for the same thing. Now, why is it that we don’t act on these very simple things?

Daily Dose of Positivity : Multidisciplinary in thinking

How many mistakes do you make when you understand something? You don’t make any mistakes. Where do mistakes come from? They come from blind spots, a lack of understanding. Why do you need to be multidisciplinary in your thinking? Because as the Japanese proverb says, “The frog in the well knows nothing of the mighty ocean.” You may know everything there is to know about your specialty, your silo, your “well,” but how are you going to make any good decisions in life—the complex systems of life, the dynamic system of life—if all you know is one well?

Munger calls “the big ideas” from all the different disciplines. You needn't be the master of all disciplines. You can have an idea of all disciplines to the extent your job or life demands.

Daily Dose of Positivity : Never lie to yourself- Assess yourself constantly

There’s a reset button at every level. Meaning you can be the best in class. And when you go to the next level you’re then at the bottom. And the difference between amateurism and professionalism is you have people looking after you and holding your hand as an amateur. Professionally, no one does. ... What matters is, what you do and how you apply yourself consistently.

“If you want to be successful, you must respect one rule: never lie to yourself.”

— Paulo Coelho

A big skill, if you want to play for a long time, is just being honest in assessing how you're playing. If you wait until the coach tells you you're not playing good, a lot of times it's too late.

The best decisions have little to no immediate payoff.

The best choices compound. Most of the benefits come at the end, not the beginning.

The more patient you are, the bigger the payoff.

Daily Dose of Positivity: Complacency and Conscious inaction.

 In life, many of the best decisions are the ones we consciously didn’t make.

The person we didn’t believe.

The item we didn’t buy.

The job we didn’t take.

The emotional e-mail/text we didn’t send.

The thing we didn’t say etc.

There is an important difference between complacency and conscious inaction.

Sure, if our inaction is based on fear or insecurity, we need to push through. However, if we are being pulled to do something that is not aligned with our values or that will not help us achieve our desired outcome, then the conscious decision not to act is often the best one. Especially if we are being drawn to something that is urgent but not important.

Daily Dose of Positivity: Priority and Tradeoff

Many things in life are a tradeoff and when we try to make everything a priority, nothing gets our full attention. 

If you take the day off to attend a party with friends, your family and work will take a temporary backseat. This isn’t a bad thing, it’s a good illustration of how having a truly full life means not trying to have everything at once; each week might have a shifting set of priorities.  

“You can have it all, just not all at the same time.” – Betty Friedan

Daily Dose of Positivity: Spending our life time with positive attitude

Why would people not go positive and not go first when there’s a 98 percent chance you’re going to benefit from it, and only a 2 percent chance the person’s going to tell you to screw off and you’re going to feel horrible, lose face, and all the rest of that? And that’s real. That’s why we don’t do it. He said there’s a huge asymmetry between the standard human desire for gain and the standard human desire to avoid loss. Which one do you think is more powerful? 98 percent versus 2 percent!

If I’m not willing to be vulnerable and expose myself to that 10 percent, I’m going to miss the other 90 percent.”

You’ve got one lifetime. How do you want to spend your one lifetime? Do you want to spend your one lifetime like most people do, fighting with everybody around them? No. I just told you how to avoid that. And in exchange have what? A celebratory life. Instead of an antagonistic fighting life, all you have to do is go positive, go first, be patient enough. You know we have to be patient for a week with this puppy. Do you know how long it usually takes for a human being to do all the probing and testing that Puppy was going to do and to find out that you’re for real? It takes six months. This is why nobody does it. “Oh, it takes too long.” Compared to what? Look at the plan B that everybody uses. It’s terrible! It doesn’t work. They spend their whole lives fighting with everybody.

Clinical psychology reads, “If you could see the world the way I see it, you’d understand why I behave the way I do.”

Great African proverb. It’s the definition of win-win. “If you want to go quickly, go alone; if you want to go far, go together.” Live your life to go far together. Don’t live it to go quickly alone. Most people grow up wanting to go quickly alone. It doesn’t work. 

What really matters is to have people pay attention to you, listen to you, and respect you; to show you that you matter; and to love you. And to have it be genuine, not bought.

Turkish proverb. “No road is long with good company.” 

It involves going positive and going first.

Austrian philosopher Ludwig Wittgenstein, who said, “To understand is to know what to do.”

— The Multidisciplinary Approach to Thinking

Daily Dose of Positivity – Simple Vs Smart

 In reality, many things in our life are very simple to explain. But we reject them saying “This is too simple. It can’t be this simple.”

If you think about things being complex as being sophisticated like most people do, you think the more complex it is, the more sophisticated it is.

 

Albert Einstein once listed what he said were the five ascending levels of cognitive prowess. The lowest level of cognitive prowess is being smart. The next level up, level four, is intelligent. Level three, next up, is brilliant. Next level up, level two, he said is genius. What? What’s higher than genius? He must have that backward. No, he doesn’t.

 

Level-5 Smart, Level-4 Intelligent, Level-3 Brilliant, Level-2 Genius, Level-1 Simple

 

Number one is simple. Simple transcends (surpasses) genius.