We all have weaknesses, and all know hardship. But it’s difficult, even on a good day, to admit we are struggling, to ask for help or to apologize when we are out of line.
Many of us have become
even more familiar with feeling vulnerable and have grown adept at avoiding
difficult conversations. We may blow up to let off steam, for instance, and not
take responsibility for the harm our actions cause. Or we may sulk when people close
to us fail at guessing our needs. When setting clear boundaries is in
order, many of us may say “yes” to everything only to end up resenting everyone—including
ourselves—for having too much on our plates.
Often, the best way to
break these cycles is to admit our difficulties to others. That step can be
excruciating and frightening, but keeping problems to ourselves can create even
more long-term complications. After all, unacknowledged feelings and
frustrations rarely stay under the rug. That is why it is important to figure
out how to openly articulate one’s feelings or thoughts even when that form of
expression leaves us feeling exposed or uncomfortable.
Confessing
romantic feelings, for example, could provoke a painful response if these
sentiments are not shared, whereas declaring one’s love for pizza is simply an
authentic, low-stakes statement.
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