Does God exists or extinct or never existed ?

When the question about my not believing in god was posed to me by my would be daughter-in-law’s mother (in 2014), I explained my stand. I said that I am neither against those who believe in god nor in favor of those who didn’t believe in god.

I said that goodness is not related to our belief in god or not. Religion is a personal belief & nothing to do with our social relations. Anybody can have any belief but should not impose anything on others. I told that I believe in people who didn’t harm others if not help others.

Ultimately we have to spend our life with people only as we can’t live with god. Hence it is not a matter for discussion at all if our relations are good.

The single truth we all wish to ignore is the destined death that will remove us from the earth permanently. Whatever we may think we are discussing so intelligently, life after death is not perceivable to anybody. Lot of discourses by so many people (so called saints, gurus, pseudo-scientists etc.) could not give me a satisfying reply. Ultimately what I conceived life is;

-        Life is simply living till death like any other creature on the earth

-         It is quite natural to die after birth. Timing & nature of death differs from person to person

-         There is no super natural power in the universe. Whatever is happening is natural as it is happening to other creatures.

-        Human beings by virtue of their abilities, making the life comfortable or miserable using science & technology in a right or wrong way and many times creating problems to themselves & other creatures in nature.

-       Society will go on even after our death & at one point of time human beings also may get extinct like other creatures as it was evident from evolution.

-      There is no creation by anybody & whatever is happening is due to the evolution and is based on cause & effect principle.

-       As life after death is a mirage that nobody can chase, life on earth has to be made comfortable & worth living.

 -          First, one has to learn to live a happy life & allow others to live happily. We cannot get happiness if all people around us are unhappy. Here comes the necessity to help others to achieve happiness. Of course, happiness means different to different persons which itself is a vast subject which I don’t want to dwell upon now. Here I am speaking of socially acceptable happiness one can get. As Lincoln says “your freedom ends at my nose”, our happiness should not make others unhappy.

 -          I don’t want to go into the jargon of things in which I never got any soothing reply w.r.t. the basic questions of life & life after death. I am very simple person with simple thoughts about life, i.e. leading a meaningful life to me & to the people who are with me (Friends or relatives close to me).

 -          I had undergone the melancholy of losing my life partner in a horrible way & I am still trying to overcome that grief. I know pretty well that I lost her forever & I can’t meet her again by no means. But this knowledge never helped me to overcome the grief I am undergoing.

 -     It is not that I fully believe in what Marx said but I feel there is some reality as it is based on facts in history as a theory and tried successfully in some areas.

 -     In fact, I was a strong believer in God till 10th class. But my habit of reading books on various topics lead me to think rationally & came to the conclusion that science and religion cannot go hand in hand and the attempts to do so are deceiving or misleading. If fact I read many religious books written by varied authors and western books on spirituality from which I learned many things. They enriched my knowledge & strengthened my concept on the life and our role in it.

 -   I always take good things from all books and never discount any particular ideology basing on whether it is religious or atheist.

I think living a life means different to different people like;

 ·       Some people live for the sake of living itself.

·       Some people live to be happy and like to enjoy the life,

·       Some people live to be happy and make their near and dear happy,

·    Very few people live for the wellbeing and happiness of other people. They will be ready to sacrifice their lives for the sake of others, social good, fighting against social evils etc.

 I feel the fourth type is the highest form of living as death is certain to all in whatever way you live and life after death is only in the form of living in other's heart.

 

Daily Dose of Positivity: Don’t try to avoid or escape

Any attempt to escape the negative, to avoid it or quash it or silence it, only backfires. The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. The avoidance of struggle is a struggle. The denial of failure is a failure. Hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame. Pain is an inextricable thread in the fabric of life, and to tear it out is not only impossible but destructive: attempting to tear it out unravels everything else with it.

To try to avoid pain is to give too much thinking about pain. In contrast, if you’re able to not give too much thinking about the pain, you become unstoppable.

Like the road not taken, it was the issues not given too much thinking that made all the difference.

Daily Dose of Positivity: Be honest in confronting your pain, fear & anxiety

Very few animals on earth have the ability to at least think, but we humans have the luxury of being able to have thoughts about our thoughts.

We feel bad about feeling bad. We feel guilty for feeling guilty.

George Orwell said that to see what’s in front of one’s nose requires a constant struggle. Well, the solution to our stress and anxiety is right there in front of our noses.

 Because there’s an infinite amount of things we can now see or know, there are also an infinite number of ways we can discover that we don’t measure up, that we’re not good enough, that things aren’t as great as they could be. And this rips us apart inside.

The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.

Pursuing something only reinforces the fact that you lack it in the first place. The more you desperately want to be rich, the more poor and unworthy you feel, regardless of how much money you actually make.

The more you desperately want to be happy and loved, the lonelier and more afraid you become, regardless of those who surround you. The more you want to be spiritually enlightened, the more self-centered and shallow you become in trying to get there.

As the existential philosopher Albert Camus said 

“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.”

Ever notice that sometimes when you care less about something, you do better at it?

Being open with your insecurities paradoxically makes you more confident and charismatic around others. The pain of honest confrontation is what generates the greatest trust and respect in your relationships. Suffering through your fears and anxieties is what allows you to build courage and perseverance. Seriously, I could keep going, but you get the point.

Everything worthwhile in life is won through overcoming the associated negative experience.

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Daily Dose of Positivity: Thinking more or less

Thinking too much about more things at a time is good for business. While there’s nothing wrong with good business, the problem is that thinking too much about more things at a time is bad for your mental health. It causes you to become overly attached to the superficial and fake, to dedicate your life to chasing a mirage of happiness and satisfaction.

The key to a good life is not thinking too much about more things at a time; it’s thinking about fewer things at a time, thinking about only what is true and immediate and important.

Daily Dose of Positivity: Making difference through Response

Every time you choose a response instead of reacting, you move closer to freedom.

Impulsive reactions give way to conflicts; mindful responses give way to understanding.

People do not want an instantaneous reply, they want the best reply. Pause and choose it so that you need not regret it later.

“Leadership is about making others better as a result of your presence and making sure that impact lasts in your absence.” – Sheryl Sandberg

Daily Dose of Positivity : Must the end of life be the worst part? Can it be made the best?

At 53, Eugene O'Kelly was in the full swing of life. Chairman and CEO of KPMG, one of the largest US accounting firms, he enjoyed a successful career and drew happiness from his wife, children, family, and close friends. He was thinking ahead: the next business trip, the firm's continued success, weekend plans with his wife, his daughter's first day of eighth grade. 

Then in May 2005, Gene was diagnosed with late-stage brain cancer and given three to six months to live.

O’Kelly resigned from KPMG and began planning his death as rigorously as he planned his life, managing the logistics of settling his estate and the spiritual work of coming to terms with his “transition,” as he called it. He ultimately chronicled that final leg of his journey in a bestselling book, Chasing Daylight

O’Kelly put great care into creating “perfect moments” with the people he valued most. He made each of these moments personal and memorable, with the understanding it would be the last time he would see that person. 

• Everything changes in an instant. Don’t wait for the “right moment”.
• Remove negative energy from your life. Resolve to be happy, not “right”.
• Recognize what is most important.

Eugene died on September 10, 2005 of terminal brain cancer.

At least Kelly did know when he would die! But many of us don’t have that luxury. Therefore, it is more important that we live each moment in our life meaningfully.

Daily Dose of Positivity: Ideas and their execution

 “Sometimes magic is just someone spending more time on something than anyone else might reasonably expect.”

— Raymond Joseph Teller

Ideas are cheap. Execution is expensive. The ability to execute separates people, not the ability to come up with ideas.

"Be less curious about people and more curious about ideas."

— Marie Curie